at the end of a long day...

Well! It’s the end of the day and I have been working hard all day, and now I have to face an hour or so of church, and then a few more hours of socializing of which I need to be a part of coz I organized it and to be honest… Sitting down is a really nice thing to do right now. Not socializing, not rubbing shoulders, not grinning and baring it… I feel a little over demanded. So this is what is on my mind right now… not something poignant, or fascinating…

I can share something with you though… I'm listening to VisionFM, and Shaunti Feldman is on with her husband talking about what women need. I read the complementary book of what men need called “For Women Only”, it was challenging and real. I realize that I don’t understand guys, and I think I can be a little rough with their fragile egos the way I tease sometimes. Its kinda frustrating though, it seems to be all about the guys ego and being gentle.

So for example, they suggest that instead of nagging them to call their mother, to turn it around and say “do you want to remind you to call your mum today?” Well… Seeing it that way, I can see the respect in that. And that maybe, in the running the household, paying the bills, running the kids around, organizing dinner (not saying that all these things ‘should’ be the responsibility of the woman, but some do do it all – like me, as a single mum) THAT we sometimes just bundle the guys up into that too, and not truly treat them as our partner, rather than another thing to sort out and organize.

Seems kinda reasonable to feel for guys to feel frustrated with that…